Law of reciprocity is about give and take. About causes and effects. Giving and receiving favors. And honestly, through my experience it comes to success only if your heart wants it. For instance, when you're in a relationship, both parties wants something that could benefit both. Macam I give you my love and I expect you to give me back sama like I kasi you. Tapi andaikata salah seorang tak satisfied maka automatik law of reciprocity itu gagal sama sekali. And that relationship will end up with a sad goodbye atau pun a hatred goodbye. You choose.

This on the other hand, which I feel yang sebenarnya can be achieved only for certain people where you sendiri have set your mind bukan hati on it. Makna kata for certain people yang you rasa you should have this reciprocity. Sebabnya once it's a success, all your effort you kasi sehabis tenaga untuk dapatkan balik reward tu buatkan you had enough. And if it fails, contoh macam that relationship fails to achieve reciprocity, a situation when a girl kept telling her boyfriend everything about her, which does not interest her boyfriend at all dan menyebabkan si boyfriend shut his mind off her. So tak terima lagi any info yang datang dari mulut si girlfriend, dan akhirnya habis sampai situ sahaja. The guy knows everything about the girl tadi but the girl knows nothing about her boyfriend. So tiada reciprocity maka goodbye.

And to build new ones with new people is one hard thing. Bukan mudah macam belajar ABC. Mungkin senang sikit dari belajar French tapi hakikatnya tak semudah yang disangka. Like a boyfriend saying "I want you to forget about him completely" pehhh.. dan hati kau berbisik "what? like you own me now?" see reciprocity tu dah tak ada so macam through your experience, you learn. And memang betul tak rugi mencuba for the best, seandainya your heart wants it. And what control your feeling is your mind which is your brain. Human mind is very powerful yet dangerous. Sebab hari ni you can say "i love you" esok you can say "not anymore"

Law of reciprocity can be on hold sekejap for certain reasons. Why? because people still have the so call "toleration" But when it reaches its point, it'll soon die sooner or later. In the end no one can decide and truth is, no decisions can be made. Reality said so.

Senang kata macam ni lah. It's really not easy to be in a relationship. For those who are still looking for soulmate ke apa, cari betul-betul. Because kalau you main hentam, you'll get a hentam relationship. You have to banyak sabar and think menggunakan akal fikiran bijak kau tu untuk kenal manusia mana yang kau selesa dan selesa jugak dengan kau. Being in a relationship needs a lot of commitment. If the relationship tu ada law of reciprocity ni, which kau dapat balik apa yang kau beri, maka sukses sudah dan kau dah berjaya. Tapi kalau vice versa bangun lah dari mimpi, dan bergerak lah ke hadapan.

"All parties must benefit from the relationship and invest in the relationship and acts must be mutually rewarding otherwise it creates an imbalance in reciprocity. When someone is the primary giver, they often expect they will receive in kind from the receiver or eventually from someone else in the world at another time."


This entry is a bit confusing sebab banyak emotion sangat. Having your own dramas everyday sometimes nak buat you gelak. and sometimes it hurts kan? If only you can just give your middle finger and your problems could be settled macam tu sahaja memang best.